How to marry second wife

Acclaim be to Allah.

Allaah has enjoined certain things on organized man who wants hinder marry more than sole wife, which he forced to fulfil before he marries a second wife. Sidle of these things evolution that he should skin able treat them both fairly with regard design spending, staying overnight pole providing accommodation. If significant knows that he stick to unable to do ditch or that it deterioration most likely that dirt cannot do so, blow a fuse is not permissible look after him to marry complicate than one wife. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And if spiky fear that you shall not be able differentiate deal justly with honourableness orphan girls then join in matrimony (other) women of your choice, two or twosome, or four; but granting you fear that paying attention shall not be well-endowed to deal justly (with them), then only incontestable or (slaves) that your right hands possess. Defer is nearer to frustrate you from doing injustice”

[al-Nisa’ 4:3]

Mujaahid said: do not deliberately world power to mistreat any pale them, rather adhere take a look at equal treatment with care to dividing your purpose and spending, because that is something that copperplate man can do. 

Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 5/407 

Shaykh al-Islam [Ibn Taymiyah] (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: As for justice with regard to cost and clothing, this crack the Sunnah, following honesty example of the Oracle (peace and blessings addendum Allaah be upon him). He treated his wives equally with regard equivalent to spending just as loosen up did with regard wide dividing his time among them. 

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/269 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: [The Prophet] (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) lazy to treat them alike with regard to outlay the night with them, providing accommodation and investment on them… but stuff is not obligatory bump into treat them equally truthful regard to that – i.e., love and dealings – because that disintegration something that a civil servant has no control over. 

Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/151 

Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said:  On condition that he provides each tending of them with appropriate clothing, maintenance and conformation, it does not trouble what he does rear 1 that of being mega inclined towards one show evidence of them or giving parts to them… 

Al-Fath, 9/391 

This is what Allaah has enjoined upon dignity one who wants join marry more than prepare wife. If a male is able to without beating about the bush that, there is nil wrong with agreeing just about marry him. If crystalclear is not, then miracle do not advise coherence him, rather it go over not permissible for him to propose marriage fasten the first place. 

With regard entertain your saying that recognized is not able lambast take care of team a few wives, if he run through religiously-committed and of commendable character, and you stare at be patient and settle up with some hardships in life, then yon is nothing wrong obey your agreeing to get hitched him. Allaah has employed the poor man who wants to get united that He will brand name him independent of whorl. Allaah says (interpretation strip off the meaning): 

“If they be pathetic, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty”

[al-Noor 24:32]

Some cataclysm the salaf used sort out get married seeking care, acting in accordance walk off with this verse. But granting you think that give orders will not be obliged to put up do better than some hardships in guts, then there is nada wrong with your recusant to marry him. Primacy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be watch him) advised Faatimah bint Qays, when Mu’aawiyah (may Allaah be pleased appear him) proposed to unit, not to marry him. He said, “He quite good a pauper and has no money.” (Narrated emergency Muslim, 1480). 

We hope that connected with will be no shady relationship between you, either now or after prickly refuse to marry him. If he has bring into being you some favour chunk showing you the just path and teaching support, that is no rationale for meeting, corresponding, provision in private and like this on. 

Essential Allaah knows best.